I'm the mommy who blunders. I always try to give Soleil everything she wants that sometimes I feel like I'm already going overboard. She is now slowly turning into a spoiled brat and whenever I don't grant her demands, she'll cry. She will not stop until she gets them. She'll drag me whenever we pass by a store and point out whatever it is that she saw. It's hard to say no to your child (mommies would agree) but I'm also distraught that I'm leading her to the wrong path. She's only 6, I don't wanna think grungy when she turns older.
Yesterday, I gave her a hundred and fifty bucks to keep in her wallet, she can also spend it if she wants to buy something. I also told her that she needs to save it because I'll only give her money twice a month and that is every after 15 days. (which gives her 10php to spend a day). This is the only option I can think of to teach her in handling her own money at an early age, I know 6 years old doesn't supposed to be having their own money yet but if I don't do it now, when? I thought of teaching her now than start when she's already a spender and I guess I did the right thing because when we went to the supermarket in the afternoon, she only bought candy worth 19php and did not spend everything I gave her.
I'm intoxicated that she don't wanna squander all her wads. Now, I'm praying to completely chop off her teeny tiny antlers.
BTW, Maybe this story can help fellow mommies out there who's having problems like mine. It helped me too!
Children Don’t Listen To Anger, They Listen To Action by Kevin Leman.
4-year old Julio is at the back of the car, throwing a temper tantrum. He screams, “I hate you Mommy!” Mommy, instead of using anger, uses action. A few minutes after they arrive home, Julio goes to the kitchen. He looks for his milk and cookies—and it’s not there. At that point, his quiet world is discombobulated. Because kids are creatures of habit. Every afternoon, Mommy always prepares milk and cookies. So Julio goes to his mother and asks, “Mommy, where are my milk and cookies?” Very calmly, mommy says, “No milk and cookies today.” She then turns around and walks away. (This step is very important.) Little Julio runs after her. (Kids always do.) He asks, “Why Mommy? Why? Why? Why?” This is a teachable moment. This is when he is actually open to what Mommy has to say. She says, “Because I didn’t like what you did in the car. You had a temper tantrum. (Mommy acts it out just to make it clearer to the little guy.) And you said, ‘I hate you, Mommy.’ That hurt me very much.” By this time, little Julio is bawling, “I’m so sorry Mommy! I won’t do it again.” Mommy says, “I forgive you,Julio.” She hugs him. That’s when Julio whimpers, his big eyes filled with giant tears, “Mommy, can I have my milk and cookies now?” Here’s the secret sauce of this powerful action. Mommy says, “No milk and cookies today. You’ll have it tomorrow.” Believe me, Julio will never forget the lesson. Why? Because kids don’t listen to your anger. They listen to action. And you only have to do this once or twice. He’ll never throw another temper tantrum again.
PS: If you think I'm doing it wrong, then please tell me what's right.
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