The 7 Year Itch

It was said that happy marriage only last for 7 years and after that, they will get bored. Hence the term 7 year itch. Either get a divorce, file an annulment or stay for the kids. Well, I refuse to believe this axiom, It's giving me the creeps! For me, it still depends on how the couple handles their relationship. There are still plenty of couples out there whose relationship lasted a lifetime.

Why I'm suddenly bothered by this?  Mainly because Jeff and I will be celebrating our 7 years of marriage this coming June,   (But we're together for 11 years now including our bf/gf days) and I don't think our relationship is going to be on the rocks anytime soon. We rarely fight, we're unlike any other couple who argue almost every single day and there's no reason we have to. I'm so blessed to have an exceptional husband like Jeff. He's like an angel sent by God to take care of Me and Soleil.

Anyways, there are things we should do to keep the fire in our marriage burning and avoid the 7 year itch aphorism. Every couple should know the needs of their better half and provide them to have a long lasting relationship.



1.   Understand that infatuation with another person and the occasional temptation to betray the trust of the one you love is a perfectly normal feeling when it comes to love and marriage. Getting hitched to another person doesn’t make you less human.  Accept that these feelings are natural.

2.  Do not under any circumstances act on those infatuation and temptation impulses until you have taken the time to fully think through the consequences if you make that choice.  Make no mistake about it, cheating on your spouse is deadly to the trust in your relationship.

3.  Recognize that continuing and recurring fantasies and infatuations about another person is a strong indicator of something amiss in your relationship with your spouse.

4.  The “turn the corner rule”—is to address the issue head-onwith your loving partner.  Failure to do so will doom your relationship to the ash-heap of lost love.

5. Love is tough.  Frankly, sometimes you determine that your loving relationship is lost.  But more likely, you discover that you truly love your spouse. You must save this relationship by committing to the hard work it will take to rebuild the love.

6.  Seek help!  Sometimes couples turn to a marriage counselor.  Others learn how to make their relationship work by reading what others, including us, have discovered.  You can learn so much about your relationship by “discovering” what others have already learned!

7.  Sometimes we have to “fish or cut bait.”  The reality is that some marriages cannot be saved.  But hopefully an examination will reveal your relationship is worth saving.

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. -Colossians 3:18-19

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